The Many Facets of Sexual Femdom:
The Femdom lifestyle ranges from Social to Domestic to Sexual; but it is the sexual aspect of femdom that in this society seems most taboo. How do you react to this photo? What do you think of the woman? What do you think of the men at her feet? Are you shocked (or maybe even disgusted) by the implications?
Although the picture implies a certain measure of BDSM, it is also a great representation of certain aspects of femdom.
Below is a list of some of the various aspects of sexual femdom and a brief description of each. In the future will update each item with a link to a photo/post on the subject. I am sure this is only a partial list- so please free to add or to comment on the ones below:
This is the worship of a woman as a Goddess. It can be simply metaphorical or can truly be a religious experience (especially from the man’s point of view). The photo above comes close to representing this.
This is a form of ‘Discipline’ (the D in BDSM) where the woman denies her man permission to have an orgasm. This can be anywhere from a few minutes (during intense teasing and sexual stimulation), to days, weeks or months. This Discipline serves to establish the woman’s control over her man and often leads to extremely intense orgasms for her charge when she finally grants him permission.
This is an extreme form of orgasm denial that can be simply not allowing the man to have an orgasm (for a specific amount of time) to locking his penis in a cage sometimes called a 'male chastity device'. Some devices simply prevent erections while other may have urethral ‘plugs’ or painful barbs.Male chastity can be used in many ways by the woman (this will be discussed later), but for the man it is a constant reminder that his manhood belongs to his woman.
In femdom, cuckolding is the subjugation of a woman’s sub-male to watching and/or knowing about her sexual encounters with other (usually well endowed) men- or women. For the sub-male this demonstrates to himself and to his woman his sexual inadequacy and is a form of sexual humiliation (see below). For the woman it is a form of both submission (to the well endowed man) and dominance… with a little mental sadism.
In femdom, pegging usually consists of the woman using a strap-on dildo in anal intercourse with her sub. For the woman, this is the ultimate in sexual control and power, and for the sub-male it is often the ultimate in sexual humiliation and submission.
Feminization / Cross-dressing:
This is the practice of having (often forcing) the man to dress and be made up like a woman. It is a form of sexual humiliation and sexual re-education (see below) that is most effective in men who have been misogynists or male chauvinists in their prior roles. It essentially forces the man to experience the sexual humiliation and degradation that he would have inflicted on the women in his life.
This is a major aspect of femdom; and often one of the most erotic! It can span from feminization to pegging to cuckolding to corporal punishment and beyond…
It cuts deep into a man’s sexuality and masculinity, exposing him to a most intense intimacy with his woman. In many ways it is a process that eventually leads to the sexual re-education of the man. Even though many women might not realize it, men often find sexual humiliation an extremely erotic experience…
CBT (Cock and Ball Torture):
Although this is mainly a form of Sada-Masochism, it is often used in femdom. Often a woman might flick the man scrotum with her finger if she is unhappy with his erection… Sometimes she might use a small crop (sometimes called a penis whip) to ‘correct’ a man’s attitude, arousal or misbehavior.
Although often considered BDSM, this can be a very powerful tool in femdom to define the dominant female and the submissive male roles. There are many forms, including caning, paddling, whipping and spanking. In the picture above, each groveling male shows signs of having endured corporal punishment at the hand of their Goddess.
CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male):
The use of nudity as a sign of subservience of the male and clothing as a sign of privilege in the woman is a very effective way to define the Femdom relationship. There is much symbolism in this practice, but the bottom line is that it defines the male as a sex object while the dressed woman is now the ogler- an instant role reversal….
Sex Role Re-education:
This is a rather nebulous aspect of femdom that often depends on the woman, the man and their relationship. It is the concept that most men in current society have been raised in male dominated sexual roles while the woman has been encouraged to be submissive. Re-education (for both parties) can use any of the above aspects of femdom to establish and re-enforce the new roles of Woman over man. It can also employ all aspects of BDSM- but especially the Discipline portion. Since femdom is usually a continuing relationship (as Miss Coquette has so eloquently reminded me), I believe this may be one of its most important tools to keep the relationship clear and exciting.